Hey, Kevin! I read your fit guide, but now everything in my closet looks bad on me. I can’t afford to replace everything, and I can’t unsee it…Jerk. Now what?
Hey, Guy. Sorry about that. Knowledge about fit is a two edge sword which cuts both ways. You can cut through all the mainstream crap out there that shoves poor fit in your face, but once you see it, you’ll start seeing it everywhere. I know, because this happened to me when I first noticed.
What did I do about this imbalance? I burned out my eyes with a hot poker. FIXED!
Step 1: Donate Everything You Haven’t Used in 12 Months
Donate it. If you haven’t used something in 12 months, you aren’t wearing it, and holding on to it “just in case” is only lying to yourself. The point of this exercise is to clean out the old to make way for the newer, more confident you. I recommend donating these cloths – even if you won’t use them, someone who needs them will. Do something good. This is the Donate pile.
Step 2: Remove Everything That Doesn’t Fit You
Set these to the side for now. We’re going to go through them in just a minute. We’ll call this the Doesn’t Fit pile.
Step 3: Remove Anything That You Don’t Love 100%
If you don’t like something you will not wear it often and it will deflate your personality when you have to wear it. But, if you love something it will add confidence to everything that you do. The key is to eventually fill your closet with clothes that you love to wear. Make a Don’t Love it pile.
Step 4: Enjoy The Gems, but You’re Not Done Yet
Look at your closet again. What survived? These are your last men hanging. These are your gems. These are the pieces of clothing that fit, that you wear regularly, and that give you confidence when you wear them. If you are into this, you can mine these gems to find your own unique style and what else you should add, but that’s a topic for another day.
Step 5: Review Your Piles and Make a List
If you’ve been following along, you have 3 piles of clothes (Donate, Doesn’t Fit, and Don’t Love it) and a much emptier closet full of gems. Now take note of the essentials that you are missing. Did you pull out your only suit? You’re only pair of jeans? You’re only jacket? You will eventually need to replace these, so make a list!
Step 6: Put Some Clothes Back in Your Closet…for Now.
If you’re anything like me, the gems in your closet don’t come close to covering you for a week, much less every event in your life. Don’t freak out!
I’m not asking you to choose between naked or broke.
Neither of those are good options for your style, health, or confidence. It was at this point in the process that I came to an important realization.
Transition takes time
You don’t have to, and probably shouldn’t make this transition all at once. I’m all about growing guys into men, but that doesn’t happen in an instant and neither does good style. Let your closet grow over time just like you do.
Let your closet grow…like you do.
Take that list that you made in Step 5, and put those items back in your closet. These are the items that you are going to replace when you find some more money and a great option or a deal online. As you work through this list, your closet will grow with you along with your confidence and personal style.
See? That wasn’t so bad… Hopefully, you’re not nearly as scared of a good cleanout now. If you are and you’re in the Atlanta area – reach out. I might even come over and help you personally!
Still think I’m a jerk for <some reason>? Tell me why in the comments.